A lot of older mothers I know (mostly through Facebook, on the older mums groups) complain that they’ve been asked if their children were their grandkids. Thankfully, I haven’t had that problem. I have the exact OPPOSITE issue.
I am 46 and a HALF this month, by the way…
During pregnancy it was almost comical to see the doctors and nurses do a double take or assume that there was a mistake regarding my actual birth date. Though my face didn’t show my age, I still have a ton of issues that plague middle-aged people (high blood pressure, genetic autoimmune disorders, bad back and arthritis, etc.).
I try to control my health issues by eating right (half the time, some of the time) and exercise (again, sporadic), plus loads of supplements.
My face- well, that one is easy. I will share with all of you outright what I do.
When you see women in Hollywood who are over 40 and look a-mazing, you’ll also hear their denials about having any work done. That’s bullsh*t. 99.9 percent of these women HAVE and DO get things done to make themselves look younger. They have access to products that most normal people haven’t even heard of. Their JOB is to look good.
Genetics also plays a HUGE roll in how we look, but taking care of ourselves yields even greater rewards, in my opinion.
People say, “Oh, it’s not NATURAL”- or, “It’s too much work”. Well, you get out of it what you put into it, just like anything else. If it’s not your cup of tea, terrific. If it is, good for you!
I have no idea why people are ashamed to admit to a beauty regimen or a little work.
While I have never had any surgical procedures done on my face, I HAVE done the following:
(Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional and what works for me may not work for you- consult your doctor)
- Botox, love it. This is the botulism you’ve been waiting for. I’ve been getting it off and on since I was about 30 yrs. old. It prevents wrinkles from forming- and, unlike what some people say, it doesn’t erase all your facial expressions if you get it from a good doctor. It lasts about 4-6 months at a time. I sometimes go a year between sessions, but generally get it done every so often. I liken it to touching up the grays in my hair (yes, I have those, too). Botox can erase 5-10 yrs off a person’s face in a matter of days. If you’re in SW Michigan, Bellissima Medical Spa and Dr. Cheryl MacDonald are AMAZING. Those ladies look great and do fantastic work.
- Chemical Peels These remove the damaged layers of skin and can erase years, acne scars, you name it. Depending on the type of peel you get, you may have some down time and may also look like a peeling zombie for a while. I’ve done Jessner’s Peels and some lighter ones. You don’t want to do this at home. If your skin is a good candidate, it can yield terrific results.
- Dermabrasion I haven’t done this in a few years, but I always love the results. It’s kind of like sandblasting the layers of skin on your face. They now make decent at home treatments- not as good as what one could get from a pro. It’s a sort of super-exfoliation. Not much down time, if any at all.
- Dermarollers They work, but not a great fan of them. Basically, it’s a little roller thingie with teeny needles in it. You roll it over your face and it stimulates collagen growth. I’ve seen it work on deep acne scars and my uncle’s forehead wrinkles. I personally can’t be bothered with it. Amazon sells them.
- Facercise THIS WORKS! I’ve been doing facial exercises (not all the time, sporadically, like everything else) since my early 30s and it really DOES tone the muscles and skin on the face. I like it, but I generally forget to do them or get bored with it. People that stick with it really get firmer, more youthful faces.
- Artefill I’ve done this once, for the hollows under my tear troughs. It’s a type of filler that is permanent and supposedly boosts collagen production in your skin. I don’t know if it has improved anything, as I only did a conservative amount 2 yrs ago. I should ask my doctor to see my before pics. I’d do this again. It looked incredible after I did it the first time, but still not sure whether the stuff has lasted.
- Vitamin C Serum Just discovered this stuff recently, while shopping on Amazon. Vitamin C exfoliates the skin, for a more luminous complexion. If you have acne scars or lots of sun damage- you NEED THIS!! My pores are smaller, lines are diminishing, and my face looks firmer- after only 2 weeks of use! I use the Coui Vitamin C Serum and am hooked! Click the link and read the reviews.
- Latisse I have skimpy, Asian type eyelashes and brows, thanks to my mother. This stuff is pricey and requires a doctor’s prescription, but it WORKS. After 4 months of use, my lashes went from nothing to WOW. I stopped using it during pregnancy, but started back on recently. I use a teeny eyeliner brush and ONE drop of the stuff on both eyes and both brows. Doing it that way yields the same results and you can stretch a bottle out for 2-3 months. Also, I’ve seen generic foreign versions (Bimatoprost and Careprost) sold online for a fraction of the US cost, with good reviews.
- Makeup I don’t wear as much makeup as I did before the baby was born- actually, I rarely wear it because I really don’t have a lot of time most days. Good makeup can make anyone look great. Even if you just do a swipe of mascara and a bit of concealer under the eyes and some lipgloss, it perks up a face. Too much makeup can be aging, so as you get older, your makeup should change as well. We often lose the ‘glow’ our skin once had as we get older, too. A good highlighter works wonders.
- Hair Color As I grow older, my hair has been getting grayer. I color my hair. I find that the darker colors I once loved are aging and harsh, so I’ve been gradually been going blonder. I love it.
- Weird Korean Snail Cream My friend posted an article about Mizon Snail Cream on FB and I tried it and love it. It’s now my go-to night cream. I have no problems with snail snot on my face- it looks like any other lotion and makes the skin SO soft.
- STAY OUT OF THE SUN! DON’T TAN- OR AT LEAST, DON’T TAN YOUR FACE!!!!!! This is one of the MOST IMPORTANT THINGS. It KILLS me to watch women continue to fake and bake in the tanning beds or in the sun. If you love laying out, wear a hat. So many of my friends have been treated for skin cancers, it’s just scary. I grew up on a beach, but never was one to just lay there and tan. Turns out now I am not even supposed to go in the sun without sunscreen because of my lupus (it triggers flares). Get a spray tan (I hate spray tans, too. They smell too much like cat pee to me). Don’t cook yourself.
- DRINK A TON OF WATER! I try to get 2-3 liters minimum per day. A hydrated body means hydrated skin. I am not always successful, but I try to keep track of my water intake.
Supplements I take WITHOUT FAIL:
- Vitamin D3, I take about 10k-20k ius a day. Helps keep depression at bay and keeps lupus from acting up. I never get colds anymore, either. Wonderful stuff. I get my Vitamin D levels checked often and they are NEVER too high, even with the dosage I consume.
- Ubiquinol from Naturewise yeah, this is the stuff that got me pregnant and studies show that it greatly improves cardiovascular health and prevents free-radical cell damage. Also gives me a nice boost of energy that I need in order to care for my baby.
- Lugol’s Iodine I live in a place that has a problem with iodine deficiency. Lugols iodine is the ONLY type of iodine that can be consumed. Here is a link to the health benefits of iodine.