Fear is the Problem: The Cliché that Love is the Answer is ACTUALLY the Answer.



We live in a world paralyzed by fear.

Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being transparent, fear of loving, fear of not being loved, (and lately, fear of disease)-fear of so many things-

Yet they tell us to be fearless- whilst convincing us into believing that we are not doing enough, we are not giving enough, we are not toeing the line, we are not enough.

How can people be fearless if they are constantly being judged negatively for that very act?

They reward the maverick who wins the gold medal, yet punish them for going against the grain.

People want to control the golden goose.

In the fairytales, they killed the golden goose. People continue to do this over and over and over and over again.

You cannot control the wind, the weather, nor other people.

Unfortunately, some make it their life’s work to attempt to do so… as if controlling others will bring a semblance of calm and order to their very disordered innards.

I call bullshit on that mess.

Their Jedi mind tricks are just that… made to induce you into believing their realities. We can control our own minds/selves/fears by LOVING OURSELVES AND OTHERS… and by knowing who we are, even if they don’t.

LOVE is FEARLESS (and this includes self love). The cliché that love is the answer is actually the TRUTH.

Do you love yourself, others, your convictions, your belief systems enough to stand up for yourself or do you cower in the corner when the Big Dogs come to hump your leg?

Will you be the bully who gangs up on those you perceive as weaker, just for the pleasure of instilling fear and control or will you be the champion for the underdog, even if that underdog is yourself?

Is it of more value to you to be popular or to have integrity?

Popularity isn’t a big thing for me. People will love your or hate you just for breathing. You can’t fight that and I don’t even want to.

I value those who value integrity, kindness, and love.

I am often called naive and trusting- even if I have an inkling I may get bitten in the ass later… because giving love and walking that walk is more important to me than covering my own rear.

I don’t even fear disappointment by others because I know I gave my authentic self. My circle is ever growing, new souls pop in daily and I delight in the adventure.

My mama always said, don’t say anything you aren’t willing to back up (in her broken English).

People fear SO MUCH. I don’t see much point in it. Surviving rape, beatings, near-death brushes, Covid 19, pulmonary embolisms, and other things I’ve not yet talked about on this blog (oh, but I will) has pretty much left me in a place where fear has less control over me… for the most part.

None of us are immune to fear, but some of us have thicker skins from Life.

My own code of ethics is simple: love fearlessly, talk honestly (even if it may offend some), and stand up for those who can’t stand up for themselves.

Above all, harm none.

Karma is a bitch. You get back what you give, for good or ill, in multitudes.

Make sure you’re giving your best that you can.

Be the cliché.

Giving Love isn’t that hard and it comes back in so many unexpected and wonderful ways…

Now, just because I’ve written the above doesn’t mean that I am all sweetness and light. Love can also be tough.

If you’re the only sane minority in a mob of rabid insanity, sometimes you have to fight your way out or die trying.

The good thing is, loves, at least you died trying.

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