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Once Upon A Time I used to have what I considered a glamorous life…

early 2000s

early 2000s

I traveled to Europe and Asia and all points in between for work at the drop of a hat.

my former chauffeur, Albert.  Amsterdam @2002-03

my former chauffeur, Albert.
Amsterdam @2002-03

I wore makeup every day, had lovely Great Lengths hair extensions, went shopping and to dinner with friends at FABU eateries. I had the luxury of working out 2-3 hours a day and felt LAZY if I did not. I could take long, hot soak-y baths alone in my tub. I did theater and spent a lot of time in front of a camera. My nails were always painted and mani/pedi’d. My face was carefully botox’d. I was thin (for me).

This was from the Manila newspaper- Lolita Miripuri and me, at some Boy George party in the Philippines @2007

This was from the Manila newspaper- Lolita Miripuri and me, at some Boy George party in the Philippines @2007

None of these things applies anymore.

I am digging through the refuse of my house, hair mussed up with graying roots at least 2 inches long… wearing a SCRUNCHIE and grubby running shorts and tee shirt. I have baby spittle or what have you drying on my shoulder. I have Newfoundland dog slobber drying on the back of my shorts and am covered in dog hair. My nails are ragged and unpolished on my hands- my feet have been haphazardly topped up of color by whatever lacquer I find in the 3 minutes I am using the toilet. A quick shower is an incredible luxury. Makeup ditto.

this is as good as it gets right now lol

this is as good as it gets right now lol

Would I trade this current life (and Maisie) for what I once had?

Nope. No. No way in Hell.

I’m much happier now. I am more relaxed, even if I am far less social. Though I am not happy with how I currently look (who ever IS?), I still feel more satisfaction and content than I’d ever felt before.

this little diva is my entire world <3

this little diva is my entire world ❤

If you would have told me 10 yrs ago that I’d be STARTING OVER as a new mother at 45, I would have laughed in your face. I was a different person 10 yrs ago, 5 yrs ago, 20 minutes ago…

my Maisie

my Maisie

When I look over my shoulder at this sleeping child next to me, I know without a doubt that it’s all worth it.

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Today is my THIRD WEEK blogging- Plus MAJOR renovations happening at my house!

I just realized it… and my posts have been rather prolific. I can’t believe it’s only been 21 days since I started this blog!

I’ve been having a difficult time keeping up with it because I have SO much to do right now.

We have been really busy these last couple of days in my house- pie baking, adjusting to life without a baby minder, renovating a bedroom to turn into a studio, getting Maisie used to changes and new sleeping arrangements- I moved her (and myself) back into the master bedroom. I haven’t slept in it for almost 2 yrs. I had to be on bedrest, then after the c-section didn’t feel like hauling the baby up and down the stairs. She has her own room up here, but has never slept in it. She loves sleeping with me in my room, though.

I am so fortunate that this big hulk of an old house has about 7 ‘bedrooms’- though not all are used as such.

I rented this 20 yd dumpster today

I rented this 20 yd dumpster today

Maisie and R inspecting the dumpster

Maisie and R inspecting the dumpster

I rented a 20 yard (that’s meters for you non-Imperial folks) dumpster today and am cleaning out the basement and 3 rooms.

One of the rooms off the master bedroom is going to become a clothing room (because I can’t fit everything just into a closet and this 100 yr old house lacks adequate closet space to begin with). My basement suffered some flooding, so we need to throw out a ton of damaged stored items and books. I’m so sad that many of my favorite books were damaged. It’s painful to throw them out and see them in the state they are in now.

My oldest son, who hasn’t lived at home for about 5 or 6 yrs, moved back from Chicago today. He has an internet show that he streams, so we are turning one of the rooms into his studio. When he moves out (whenever that is- he says 6 mos- a year, but we love having him, so any amount of time is good), we will convert it to a playroom/toy room for Maisie/ guest room.

I haven’t been able to help with the basement, because I have to watch the baby. I don’t want her down there until we clean it out and bleach all the damp crud away.

We gave away 2 nice full sized mattresses today and I have some old washer/dryers that I will give to scrapper friends to haul out. I also am going to be leaving old exercise machines by the side of the road for people to take for free.

My basement currently resembles something from the tv show “Hoarders”. That is NOT good. I want to remedy this.

In my office, which I rarely use anymore, I will be setting up an interim studio for him to broadcast from… the room that will eventually be his must be gutted and drywalled and painted first. Hopefully this will all get done within a month, if he helps out.

I lost my SHIT on R this afternoon. Went to check on the dumpster progress and saw that they’d thrown away a box of expensive linens, heirloom ornaments, blankets I bought in Scotland years ago, 2 Louis Vuitton purses, leather and fur gloves, and a BAG OF COINS. I screamed so loudly that my neighbors came outside to watch as I scrambled/climbed that dumpster with Maisie attached to me in her Korean baby carrier (on my back). Apparently, they didn’t check the boxes they were tossing. NOW they will be more careful. Or. ELSE..

he is going through this to make sure he didn't throw anything else away that he wasn't supposed to

he is going through this to make sure he didn’t throw anything else away that he wasn’t supposed to

I probably won’t be posting as much, but I will be reblogging things I find interesting.

Night all!

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Katie O’Reilly on the Downsides to Donating Your Eggs

thought this was a really interesting blog post. I know that a lot of women over 40 opt for donor eggs. My Maisie was all mine and resulted from the use of the supplement ubiquinol, but this is good to know…

I can commiserate with her problems after fertility treatments – I had a brief foray into that sphere with no success, but ended up with three years of serious female troubles, not unlike what O’Reilly describes.

I am not a fan of Clomid and the hormones that they pump into a woman during fertility treatment.  My first TIA (small stroke type event) also happened during this process.

Longreads

For a brief while in my late twenties, I toyed with selling my eggs. In the end, I was afraid of having the procedure, of what the fertility drugs might do to me—and the idea of having offspring out in the world whom I might never know. (I was afraid enough of having offspring I would know, which I ultimately avoided.)

At BuzzFeed, writer Katie O’Reilly writes about her experience going through with the procedure a few years ago. Now, she suffers from what appear to be side effects—the evidence is pretty persuasive, although unconfirmed—and has many regrets:

After wading through a slew of Craigslist ads seeking plasma donors, I finally hit upon a gig that sounded promising: “Extraordinary females” with “high SAT scores, athletic backgrounds, and emotional resiliency” were being sought to “make someone’s dream come true.” My pulse quickened as I read on to learn that for this “most…

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I’ve Given Birth To A 10 Month Old Foodie Who Demands Raw Green Onions, Persian Khoresht, And Crab Legs…

crab

crab legs all over her little baby face and in her baby fist

Maisie is a foodie, I can already tell this now.  She has been demanding everything we eat since about 5 months.  So far, there is nothing she won’t eat (except juice and milk). She sneaks drinks of black coffee or tea out of my cup, if I am not looking.

Spicy curries, Persian kebab, Vietnamese pho?  NOM NOM NOM will be her answer.

home made pho for mommy

home made pho for mommy

Pho for Maisie

Pho for Maisie

“Hey, where’s my pho?!”

 

Garlic Okra Pickles?  MORE PLEASE!!

Crab legs?:  Don’t take her to an all-you-can-eat crab leg buffet, they WILL charge you!

Strawberries and raw green onions from the garden:  GOBBLES them up.

 

 
Unless it’s the odd organic veggie/fruit pouch or some baby cereal (rarely), she eats what we eat- in amounts that are astonishing.  She’s been clocking in between 25th-50th percentile for weight- and OFF THE CHARTS in height, consistently.

If I gave her avocado toast every morning, she'd be happy.

If I gave her avocado toast every morning, she’d be happy.

Today’s Breakfast Menu:

Eggs Scrambled with Dill
Sliced Tomatoes
Medjool Dates
Avocado Mashed w/Sriracha, S & P- on toast.
Water (because she seems to dislike juice and milk.  Getting her to drink her bottles is a chore)

Spaghetti, with a side of kale salad

Spaghetti, with a side of kale salad

I generally make enough to feed her, plus enough to throw on her table so she can ‘feed’ herself.  She is 10 months old, so her self-feeding skills are not quite spectacular, but our 3 Newfoundland dogs appreciate her technique.

Make no mistake- these are HER dogs.

Make no mistake- these are HER dogs.

Maisie with 2 outta 3 of our Newfoundlands

Maisie with 2 outta 3 of our Newfoundlands

 

I often wonder if she eats such a varied (and highly spiced) menu because that is what I ate during gestation and breast feeding.  I was RAW VEGAN and juicing prior to becoming pregnant (and during the first month).  I developed an insatiable craving for avocados straight away.  THAT led to a sudden and urgent need for chicken wings, which I despised pre-pregnancy.  Those chicken wings were the death knell to my healthy vegan lifestyle…

I feed her solids 3-4 times a day, not including her bottle feedings.  I am no longer breast feeding because I had issues with milk production due to an earlier breast lift and reduction years ago.

nomm... chicken...

oooh… chicken…

I am thankful that she has no food issues- I went through TWO picky eaters, my middle and youngest son.  My eldest boy was exactly like Maisie in terms of ‘foodiness’.  By the time he was two, Sam was leafing through magazines and asking me to cook him ‘magazine food’.

What IS a first for me is that she’s not overweight.  I thank my lucky stars that she did not seem to inherit my metabolism.

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Natural Pregnancy After 45: List of Supplements I Took Prior To Conceiving And During Pregnancy

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The owner of missmaisieandme.com will not be liable for any errors or omissions in this information nor for the availability of this information. The owner will not be liable for any losses, injuries, or damages from the display or use of this information.

I am also not a representative of any of these companies listed- I am just sharing what worked for *me*.

Maisie at 9 months at the beach

Maisie- 9 months-at the beach

I am a supplement junkie.  I fully admit that I have a huge love for them.  I am not a huge fan of Big Pharma drugs at all.

I am of the belief that “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” for most things.

Prior to my (accidental) conception of this child (at age 45), I had been going through a month-long juice and salad cleanse.  I started on ubiquinol supplements about 3 months prior.  I was also taking regular vitamin D3 (for my lupus) and lugol’s iodine drops (2-3 drops in my water, 1x a day).

Supplements prior to conception:

Supplements taken AFTER conception/during pregnancy:

  • Lugol’s iodine 2-3 drops 1x/day in my water.  Great article on fetal intelligence and higher IQs in babies because of iodine supplementation HERE.  Another article about why iodine is so important during pregnancy HERE.
  • Maca (first 2 months of pregnancy, to prevent miscarriage) 2 tablespoons per day, usually blended in a green juice.  Article HERE.
  • Vitamin D3 10,000 ius 1x/day.  Cuts down on pregnancy complications and risks (like pre-eclampsia), article HERE.  More reasons why D3 is vital for brain development HERE.   High doses also lead to better muscle mass and less type 1 diabetes- article HERE.
  • Prenatal vitamins these are pretty standard.


In addition, I was also on high blood pressure medication (Labetalol), progesterone, and heparin for my high blood pressure, progesterone issues, and Factor V Leiden blood clotting disorder.

Even with my 65 lb. weight gain, I did NOT get gestational diabetes nor did I develop preeclampsia, something they worry about in older pregnancies.

That’s it!

My child was born at week 37 by scheduled c-section and weighed 7 pounds 7 ounces and was 20 inches long.  Her Apgar score was perfect.

Knock wood, she has been uttering words since 2 months and is very intelligent and strong.  At nearly 10 months, this child is already very advanced in speech and growth.  She’s my little social butterfly dancing fool.  🙂


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Pregnancy (and C-Section) After A Tummy Tuck… My Experience

13 yrs. ago, after having three sons via caesarian section, I decided to have a tummy tuck.  It was probably one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself, even if it did leave me with a belly button that resembled a feline’s anus.

(I asked my doctor about this odd deformity- apparently TT weird navels happen.  I don’t know if that is true or not- was just true for me.)

Post 1st Tummy Tuck- couldn't find a less clothed photo

Post 1st Tummy Tuck- couldn’t find a less clothed photo

The tummy tuck removed about 2.5 lbs of stretch marked skin- that horrible saggy ‘apron’ that plagues an unlucky majority of us mothers.  I could see my bits and pieces with ease for the first time in over a decade.  I was elated to have a flat tum once more, even though the surgery ALSO raised the pubis a bit higher.  The result was to either shave it entirely or have a bush that rivaled ZZ TOP’s beards, growing higher than I remembered before the procedure.

I opted for the former.

Having a cat’s ass for a belly button and going entirely hairless were small prices to pay for washboard abs.  Besides, glorious ‘hip to hip’ bushes went out of vogue in the 1970s.  I was good with this.

When I found out that I was expecting Maisie, I started to worry about what it would do to my stomach.  Would it rip all the stitching out that kept my linea alba closed (the muscles that run down the center of the abdomen and stretch during pregnancy)?  Would I get more stretch marks?  Would the baby have room to grow?  Did I have ENOUGH SKIN LEFT on my belly to accommodate this growing fetus?!  WOULD I BURST OPEN LIKE AN OVERRIPE PEACH?!!?!?  What would it look like after the baby was born?

I was getting kind of anxious about it all (after the fact… didn’t really think much of it prior).

I googled and searched and YouTube’d everything I could find on the subject.  There wasn’t a lot about it online.

I asked my doctors if they’d performed c-sections on people who had previous tummy tucks- the initial group of doctors HADN’T and I was sent to maternal fetal medicine 45 minutes away.  The doctors there assured me that they had experience with previous TTs and all things calmed down… kinda.

The women on YouTube all looked like their stomachs were much flatter than the usual pregnant woman’s.  Their tummy tucks were considerably newer than mine, though.  A few, by the end of their pregnancies, acquired new horizontal stretch marks that radiated from their belly buttons.  Weeks after birth, some needed to redo their tummies, some didn’t.

about 6 or 7 months pregnant with Maisie.

about 6 or 7 months pregnant with Maisie.

Here’s what happened to me:

1.  At FIRST, I seemed much smaller in early pregnancy, but later my stomach became huge.  Some said I wasn’t as big as other preggo ladies, but I made up for it by having my breasts and derriere grow to rival a Kardashian’s.

2.  There was a bit more pain and stretching type soreness.  Not much more.  Enough to notice.

3.  I did NOT get any new stretch marks, even though I gained over 65 lbs!

4.  The diastasis recti, muscles down the center of my abdomen, stayed sewn shut.  NOTHING STRETCHED, my TT held wonderfully.

5.  I asked the doctors to make sure to ‘shut the barn door when they left, just like they found me’ and repair the TT after the c-section.  I am not quite sure what they had to do, but it took them a whopping HOUR AND A HALF to get me sewn back up.  If you’ve had prior c-sections, you know it almost never takes that long.

6.  My tummy was VERY puffy for months after.  I worried that my tummy tuck had somehow been stretched out or something.  After more weight loss and a few weeks of waist training (all the rage now), it was back to almost post-first-tummy tuck flat.  I am continuing to waist train now and am loving the results.

About a month ago, 2 weeks into waist training... weird navel and all!

About a month ago, 2 weeks into waist training… weird navel and all!

7.  My baby was born at week 37:  Maisie weighed a respectable 7 lbs 7 ounces and was 20 inches long.  She obviously had plenty of growing room.

A squalling Maisie, fresh out of the oven...

A squalling Maisie, fresh out of the oven…

Would I try for another baby after this?  Probably not.

I feel like I lucked out all around.  Having a baby at 45 is and was the most wonderful and terrifying experience.

I hope this helps others who are searching for info on babies after tummy tucks.  I wish more people would share their experiences, too.

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Over 40? Need a Fertility Boost? Try Ubiquinol! It (ACCIDENTALLY) Worked For Me~

Let me preface this by saying I DO NOT REPRESENT THIS COMPANY NOR AM I SELLING ANYTHING!  I just want people to know what worked for me…

I have genetic autoimmune disease (lupus), high blood pressure, Factor V Leiden (blood clotting disorder), and MTHFR mutation- all things that can prevent later in life pregnancies from being successful and can cause miscarriage- yet I carried a HEALTHY baby to term at 45 because of this stuff!

Our first snuggle

Our first snuggle

After a ‘certain age’, our eggs start to get genetically ‘wonky’ and we generally don’t have as many as we did when we were younger, the experts say.

This is why there is such a high rate of miscarriages in many women over 40.  Their eggs were not as genetically ‘sound’ as they used to be- chromosomal issues can run rampant… again, this is what the ‘experts’ say.

I wasn’t trying to get pregnant with Maisie.  I was minding my own business, trying to get healthy and fit- and combat the lethargy that was creeping up on my aging body.  Someone told me about Ubiquinol and I happened to receive a free bottle of the stuff from a company called Naturewise Ubiquinol (on Amazon.com).  I took the stuff as directed and three months later- SURPRISE!  I was pregnant.

** the dosage I took was 100 mg 2x/day for the first 2 weeks- then 100 mg 1x a day after…

How did this happen?

Well, from this website I learned:

“CoQ10 is considered by many to be the miracle nutrient because almost every living cell relies on it for energy production. An important fact that you may not know is that the body requires certain levels of CoQ10 to function properly. If these blood levels drop, the body becomes more susceptible to disease and premature aging. This is why CoQ10 is so vital to the health of both the male and female reproductive system; most importantly egg and sperm health. But to truly understand why CoQ10 is so important to health, you must first learn what it is and why its most biologically active form, Ubiquinol is a key player in improving egg and sperm health.”

ALSO:

“There are two forms of CoQ10, ubiquinone and Ubiquinol. CoQ10 starts off as ubiquinone and then is converted within the cell to the more powerful Ubiquinol. Ubiquinol is considered one of the most powerful antioxidants.

CoQ10 is a considered a “vitamin-like” nutrient because it is synthesized in the membrane of human cells, but it is also obtained in small amounts through dietary intake. It is most abundantly found in organ meats, but can also be found in dark leafy green vegetables like spinach, kale and broccoli, nuts, seafood, and meat. Though the amounts of leafy greens a person would need to consume to obtain therapeutic amounts of CoQ10 would be high. That is why nutritional supplementation of CoQ10 and/or Ubiquinol is suggested. Most all CoQ10 supplements available are in the form of ubiquinone. Ubiquinol is different in that it is the most biologically active form of coenzyme Q10 and does not need to be converted by the body. Ubiquinol is eight times more potent than ubiquinone.”


To sum up the above:  Over 40s should NOT take coq10, instead you take UBIQUINOL because we can convert it more readily into a usable form that older bodies need.

Another website has even more interesting information for people who are trying to get pregnant over 40:

Suggested: If taking Coenzyme Q10 ,  800-1000mg/day is recommended. If takingUbiquinol , 300-600mg/day is recommended. (With both forms, if egg quality is poor, take a little more.)

Be sure to take it with some fat or with a meal to enhance absorption. Take it for at least 3 months prior to conception, preferably 6 months. Stop taking either after embryo transfer or positive pregnancy test (not because of any recognized danger but simply as a precaution).

Caution: If you take CoQ10 or Ubiquinol late at night, it could keep you awake, much like a strong cup of coffee. Also, taking too much CoQ10 overall can lower your blood pressure, so it’s not a good idea to take it if you’re on certain medications. Check with your doctor.


Coenzyme Q10 and Ubiquinol
are essentially the same thing. The only difference is that ubiquinol is a purer, more absorbable form of CoQ10, which is why you need to take less of it. Since both are expensive, ubiquinol may be more economical, but it can be harder to find. “

“Before now, Western medicine has always firmly believed that the aging of eggs was irreversible. But according to a recent study involving CoQ10 and aging mice (equivalent to women in their 40s), it may actually be possible to improve egg quality and reverse some age-related infertility. In the study, the aging mice given CoQ10 got nearly double the number of ovulated eggs and consequently had litters nearly twice the size as the control group. What’s more, 100% of the mice given CoQ10 got pregnant compared to only 70% of the control.”

I started taking ubiquinol again when Maisie was 2 months old, because I needed the energy to deal with a newborn and I love how I feel on it.  It is suggested that you discontinue taking it during pregnancy, which is what I did.

Other things to remember when supplementing with ubiquinol:

1.  It takes THREE (3) MONTHS MINIMUM FOR ubiquinol to rejuvenate your eggs.  Be patient and don’t freak out if your periods get weird in the interim- it happened to me and others before we fell pregnant.

2.  If you have low blood pressure, keep in mind that ubiquinol can lower it even further.

3.  It works to improve sperm health as well, men CAN take this.

4.  More isn’t always better.  100-300 mg a day is enough.  Ubiquinol is far more potent than regular coq10.

5.  After giving birth, ubiquinol really helps give you a bit more energy.

If any of this information helps you and/or you’ve gotten pregnant with the help of this supplement, let me know!  Leave a comment!  I’d love to hear from you 🙂

So far, at least 12-15 ladies I know from the Facebook over 40 groups have gotten pregnant/given birth with the aid of ubiquinol, even after the fertility procedures and doctors had given up.

Sticky vibes and blessings to all of you!

Maisie, my miracle ubiquinol baby, playing her piano at 9 months

Maisie, my miracle ubiquinol baby, playing her piano at 9 months

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Send In The Clowns: Stupid Things People Say When They Find Out You’re Over 40 And Pregnant…

3 week old Maisie's response to her detractors

3 week old Maisie’s response to her detractors- keeping it classy…

Having a surprise pregnancy at 45 was difficult enough with all the health/doctor issues.  I could navigate through those things just fine- what REALLY ticked me off were the things people said that were stupid/hurtful/downright MEAN when I announced my pregnancy.  Having had a previous miscarriage at 43 (fetus died in utero at 6 weeks 6 days, a pretty common demise), I knew what to expect.  We announced that failed pregnancy far too early.  The doctors even told me that I was infertile due to my age and to never expect to fall pregnant again.  (Oddly, I’d been juice cleansing when I got pregnant at 43 as well… just an FYI for those looking to get knocked up).  By the time I became pregnant with Maisie, I’d entirely given up all hope and was perfectly fine with never having another child.

I have likened being pregnant in your 40s to a teen suddenly falling pregnant– you get similar shock and asinine comments.  If you’re going through this now, or have in the past- you’re not alone.  Feel free to post your experiences in the comments section.

Anyway, after the miscarriage at 43, I heard such gems as:

“Are you TRYING to breed a retard?!” (from a FORMER gay male friend.)

“You’re SO lucky you miscarried, I’d KILL myself if I got pregnant at our age” (from a NURSE)

“Those Asians, son, they look 18 when you go to bed with them, but one day you’ll wake up and she’ll suddenly look 80” (FROM MY PARTNER’S FATHER, as he drove us to the hospital for my D & C after the miscarriage- I was in the BACK SEAT- I let him have it after and didn’t speak to them for YEARS.)

Since I am a bit outspoken and testy by nature, people were a bit less forthcoming with their comments once they realized Maisie’s pregnancy was ‘sticking’. I’d also try to diffuse a lot of comments by saying “well, I found out it wasn’t menopause”, yet I still heard some seriously insensitive things:

“Are you crazy?!  You’ll be 178 yrs old by the time that child graduates”

“Do you realize how old you will be when she goes to college?”  Um, duh.  I do have basic math skills.

“You probably won’t live long enough to meet your grandchildren”  That was morbid.  I know plenty of people who had kids young and didn’t live to see their grandkids.

“You’re too old, too old… are you sure the MaterniT test was right?  You could have a DS baby” (not that there is ANYTHING WRONG with a person with Down’s)

“well, I guess it’s too late to have an abortion, isn’t it?”

“in my day, women were ashamed to have ‘Change of Life’ babies and hid in the house until the baby came”  I hid in the house, too, involuntarily.  They call that ‘bed rest’.

“your sons are all grown now, why would you put yourself through THAT again?”  I am happy to put myself ‘through that’ again.  As a young mother I missed a lot of wonderful things and my sons grew up far too fast.  I cherish each and every second with my Maisie now.

Oddly and thankfully, as this pregnancy progressed, the negativity became less and less.  Women I knew who were my age began confiding to me that they’d ALSO love to have another little one, but were fearful because of their age/health/etc.

Our joy was shared with everyone (mostly on Facebook, because I like to overshare a wee bit too much) and I began to understand why grandparents feel such love and adoration for their grandkids:  You get do-overs.

Maisie is my do-over.  She makes me stop and appreciate the smallest of things.  I truly wish I would have had this foresight as a young mother.  I wish I would have given MORE of myself to my sons when they were children.

Life gets in the way and you believe you have all the time in the world.  We don’t.  We never know how long our stay on Earth is going to be.

For those of you going through this or who have gone through this before:  I feel for you.

For those who know people who are older and pregnant- be supportive and shut your damned mouths.

Pregnancy is difficult no matter how old the woman is.

Another positive thing that has come from having a daughter late in life:  People who used to be unsupportive are now amazingly wonderful with us.  Older mothers are becoming the new norm.  It’s not a shameful thing anymore.

I sometimes joke that some of us should only be issued our uteruses at 40, because you’re calmer and more settled.

Motherhood after 45 has been the best thing that’s ever happened to me.  It was worth the pain, the negative comments, all of it.