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Katie O’Reilly on the Downsides to Donating Your Eggs

thought this was a really interesting blog post. I know that a lot of women over 40 opt for donor eggs. My Maisie was all mine and resulted from the use of the supplement ubiquinol, but this is good to know…

I can commiserate with her problems after fertility treatments – I had a brief foray into that sphere with no success, but ended up with three years of serious female troubles, not unlike what O’Reilly describes.

I am not a fan of Clomid and the hormones that they pump into a woman during fertility treatment.  My first TIA (small stroke type event) also happened during this process.

Longreads

For a brief while in my late twenties, I toyed with selling my eggs. In the end, I was afraid of having the procedure, of what the fertility drugs might do to me—and the idea of having offspring out in the world whom I might never know. (I was afraid enough of having offspring I would know, which I ultimately avoided.)

At BuzzFeed, writer Katie O’Reilly writes about her experience going through with the procedure a few years ago. Now, she suffers from what appear to be side effects—the evidence is pretty persuasive, although unconfirmed—and has many regrets:

After wading through a slew of Craigslist ads seeking plasma donors, I finally hit upon a gig that sounded promising: “Extraordinary females” with “high SAT scores, athletic backgrounds, and emotional resiliency” were being sought to “make someone’s dream come true.” My pulse quickened as I read on to learn that for this “most…

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Natural Pregnancy After 45: List of Supplements I Took Prior To Conceiving And During Pregnancy

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I am also not a representative of any of these companies listed- I am just sharing what worked for *me*.

Maisie at 9 months at the beach

Maisie- 9 months-at the beach

I am a supplement junkie.  I fully admit that I have a huge love for them.  I am not a huge fan of Big Pharma drugs at all.

I am of the belief that “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” for most things.

Prior to my (accidental) conception of this child (at age 45), I had been going through a month-long juice and salad cleanse.  I started on ubiquinol supplements about 3 months prior.  I was also taking regular vitamin D3 (for my lupus) and lugol’s iodine drops (2-3 drops in my water, 1x a day).

Supplements prior to conception:

Supplements taken AFTER conception/during pregnancy:

  • Lugol’s iodine 2-3 drops 1x/day in my water.  Great article on fetal intelligence and higher IQs in babies because of iodine supplementation HERE.  Another article about why iodine is so important during pregnancy HERE.
  • Maca (first 2 months of pregnancy, to prevent miscarriage) 2 tablespoons per day, usually blended in a green juice.  Article HERE.
  • Vitamin D3 10,000 ius 1x/day.  Cuts down on pregnancy complications and risks (like pre-eclampsia), article HERE.  More reasons why D3 is vital for brain development HERE.   High doses also lead to better muscle mass and less type 1 diabetes- article HERE.
  • Prenatal vitamins these are pretty standard.


In addition, I was also on high blood pressure medication (Labetalol), progesterone, and heparin for my high blood pressure, progesterone issues, and Factor V Leiden blood clotting disorder.

Even with my 65 lb. weight gain, I did NOT get gestational diabetes nor did I develop preeclampsia, something they worry about in older pregnancies.

That’s it!

My child was born at week 37 by scheduled c-section and weighed 7 pounds 7 ounces and was 20 inches long.  Her Apgar score was perfect.

Knock wood, she has been uttering words since 2 months and is very intelligent and strong.  At nearly 10 months, this child is already very advanced in speech and growth.  She’s my little social butterfly dancing fool.  🙂


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Over 40? Need a Fertility Boost? Try Ubiquinol! It (ACCIDENTALLY) Worked For Me~

Let me preface this by saying I DO NOT REPRESENT THIS COMPANY NOR AM I SELLING ANYTHING!  I just want people to know what worked for me…

I have genetic autoimmune disease (lupus), high blood pressure, Factor V Leiden (blood clotting disorder), and MTHFR mutation- all things that can prevent later in life pregnancies from being successful and can cause miscarriage- yet I carried a HEALTHY baby to term at 45 because of this stuff!

Our first snuggle

Our first snuggle

After a ‘certain age’, our eggs start to get genetically ‘wonky’ and we generally don’t have as many as we did when we were younger, the experts say.

This is why there is such a high rate of miscarriages in many women over 40.  Their eggs were not as genetically ‘sound’ as they used to be- chromosomal issues can run rampant… again, this is what the ‘experts’ say.

I wasn’t trying to get pregnant with Maisie.  I was minding my own business, trying to get healthy and fit- and combat the lethargy that was creeping up on my aging body.  Someone told me about Ubiquinol and I happened to receive a free bottle of the stuff from a company called Naturewise Ubiquinol (on Amazon.com).  I took the stuff as directed and three months later- SURPRISE!  I was pregnant.

** the dosage I took was 100 mg 2x/day for the first 2 weeks- then 100 mg 1x a day after…

How did this happen?

Well, from this website I learned:

“CoQ10 is considered by many to be the miracle nutrient because almost every living cell relies on it for energy production. An important fact that you may not know is that the body requires certain levels of CoQ10 to function properly. If these blood levels drop, the body becomes more susceptible to disease and premature aging. This is why CoQ10 is so vital to the health of both the male and female reproductive system; most importantly egg and sperm health. But to truly understand why CoQ10 is so important to health, you must first learn what it is and why its most biologically active form, Ubiquinol is a key player in improving egg and sperm health.”

ALSO:

“There are two forms of CoQ10, ubiquinone and Ubiquinol. CoQ10 starts off as ubiquinone and then is converted within the cell to the more powerful Ubiquinol. Ubiquinol is considered one of the most powerful antioxidants.

CoQ10 is a considered a “vitamin-like” nutrient because it is synthesized in the membrane of human cells, but it is also obtained in small amounts through dietary intake. It is most abundantly found in organ meats, but can also be found in dark leafy green vegetables like spinach, kale and broccoli, nuts, seafood, and meat. Though the amounts of leafy greens a person would need to consume to obtain therapeutic amounts of CoQ10 would be high. That is why nutritional supplementation of CoQ10 and/or Ubiquinol is suggested. Most all CoQ10 supplements available are in the form of ubiquinone. Ubiquinol is different in that it is the most biologically active form of coenzyme Q10 and does not need to be converted by the body. Ubiquinol is eight times more potent than ubiquinone.”


To sum up the above:  Over 40s should NOT take coq10, instead you take UBIQUINOL because we can convert it more readily into a usable form that older bodies need.

Another website has even more interesting information for people who are trying to get pregnant over 40:

Suggested: If taking Coenzyme Q10 ,  800-1000mg/day is recommended. If takingUbiquinol , 300-600mg/day is recommended. (With both forms, if egg quality is poor, take a little more.)

Be sure to take it with some fat or with a meal to enhance absorption. Take it for at least 3 months prior to conception, preferably 6 months. Stop taking either after embryo transfer or positive pregnancy test (not because of any recognized danger but simply as a precaution).

Caution: If you take CoQ10 or Ubiquinol late at night, it could keep you awake, much like a strong cup of coffee. Also, taking too much CoQ10 overall can lower your blood pressure, so it’s not a good idea to take it if you’re on certain medications. Check with your doctor.


Coenzyme Q10 and Ubiquinol
are essentially the same thing. The only difference is that ubiquinol is a purer, more absorbable form of CoQ10, which is why you need to take less of it. Since both are expensive, ubiquinol may be more economical, but it can be harder to find. “

“Before now, Western medicine has always firmly believed that the aging of eggs was irreversible. But according to a recent study involving CoQ10 and aging mice (equivalent to women in their 40s), it may actually be possible to improve egg quality and reverse some age-related infertility. In the study, the aging mice given CoQ10 got nearly double the number of ovulated eggs and consequently had litters nearly twice the size as the control group. What’s more, 100% of the mice given CoQ10 got pregnant compared to only 70% of the control.”

I started taking ubiquinol again when Maisie was 2 months old, because I needed the energy to deal with a newborn and I love how I feel on it.  It is suggested that you discontinue taking it during pregnancy, which is what I did.

Other things to remember when supplementing with ubiquinol:

1.  It takes THREE (3) MONTHS MINIMUM FOR ubiquinol to rejuvenate your eggs.  Be patient and don’t freak out if your periods get weird in the interim- it happened to me and others before we fell pregnant.

2.  If you have low blood pressure, keep in mind that ubiquinol can lower it even further.

3.  It works to improve sperm health as well, men CAN take this.

4.  More isn’t always better.  100-300 mg a day is enough.  Ubiquinol is far more potent than regular coq10.

5.  After giving birth, ubiquinol really helps give you a bit more energy.

If any of this information helps you and/or you’ve gotten pregnant with the help of this supplement, let me know!  Leave a comment!  I’d love to hear from you 🙂

So far, at least 12-15 ladies I know from the Facebook over 40 groups have gotten pregnant/given birth with the aid of ubiquinol, even after the fertility procedures and doctors had given up.

Sticky vibes and blessings to all of you!

Maisie, my miracle ubiquinol baby, playing her piano at 9 months

Maisie, my miracle ubiquinol baby, playing her piano at 9 months

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Send In The Clowns: Stupid Things People Say When They Find Out You’re Over 40 And Pregnant…

3 week old Maisie's response to her detractors

3 week old Maisie’s response to her detractors- keeping it classy…

Having a surprise pregnancy at 45 was difficult enough with all the health/doctor issues.  I could navigate through those things just fine- what REALLY ticked me off were the things people said that were stupid/hurtful/downright MEAN when I announced my pregnancy.  Having had a previous miscarriage at 43 (fetus died in utero at 6 weeks 6 days, a pretty common demise), I knew what to expect.  We announced that failed pregnancy far too early.  The doctors even told me that I was infertile due to my age and to never expect to fall pregnant again.  (Oddly, I’d been juice cleansing when I got pregnant at 43 as well… just an FYI for those looking to get knocked up).  By the time I became pregnant with Maisie, I’d entirely given up all hope and was perfectly fine with never having another child.

I have likened being pregnant in your 40s to a teen suddenly falling pregnant– you get similar shock and asinine comments.  If you’re going through this now, or have in the past- you’re not alone.  Feel free to post your experiences in the comments section.

Anyway, after the miscarriage at 43, I heard such gems as:

“Are you TRYING to breed a retard?!” (from a FORMER gay male friend.)

“You’re SO lucky you miscarried, I’d KILL myself if I got pregnant at our age” (from a NURSE)

“Those Asians, son, they look 18 when you go to bed with them, but one day you’ll wake up and she’ll suddenly look 80” (FROM MY PARTNER’S FATHER, as he drove us to the hospital for my D & C after the miscarriage- I was in the BACK SEAT- I let him have it after and didn’t speak to them for YEARS.)

Since I am a bit outspoken and testy by nature, people were a bit less forthcoming with their comments once they realized Maisie’s pregnancy was ‘sticking’. I’d also try to diffuse a lot of comments by saying “well, I found out it wasn’t menopause”, yet I still heard some seriously insensitive things:

“Are you crazy?!  You’ll be 178 yrs old by the time that child graduates”

“Do you realize how old you will be when she goes to college?”  Um, duh.  I do have basic math skills.

“You probably won’t live long enough to meet your grandchildren”  That was morbid.  I know plenty of people who had kids young and didn’t live to see their grandkids.

“You’re too old, too old… are you sure the MaterniT test was right?  You could have a DS baby” (not that there is ANYTHING WRONG with a person with Down’s)

“well, I guess it’s too late to have an abortion, isn’t it?”

“in my day, women were ashamed to have ‘Change of Life’ babies and hid in the house until the baby came”  I hid in the house, too, involuntarily.  They call that ‘bed rest’.

“your sons are all grown now, why would you put yourself through THAT again?”  I am happy to put myself ‘through that’ again.  As a young mother I missed a lot of wonderful things and my sons grew up far too fast.  I cherish each and every second with my Maisie now.

Oddly and thankfully, as this pregnancy progressed, the negativity became less and less.  Women I knew who were my age began confiding to me that they’d ALSO love to have another little one, but were fearful because of their age/health/etc.

Our joy was shared with everyone (mostly on Facebook, because I like to overshare a wee bit too much) and I began to understand why grandparents feel such love and adoration for their grandkids:  You get do-overs.

Maisie is my do-over.  She makes me stop and appreciate the smallest of things.  I truly wish I would have had this foresight as a young mother.  I wish I would have given MORE of myself to my sons when they were children.

Life gets in the way and you believe you have all the time in the world.  We don’t.  We never know how long our stay on Earth is going to be.

For those of you going through this or who have gone through this before:  I feel for you.

For those who know people who are older and pregnant- be supportive and shut your damned mouths.

Pregnancy is difficult no matter how old the woman is.

Another positive thing that has come from having a daughter late in life:  People who used to be unsupportive are now amazingly wonderful with us.  Older mothers are becoming the new norm.  It’s not a shameful thing anymore.

I sometimes joke that some of us should only be issued our uteruses at 40, because you’re calmer and more settled.

Motherhood after 45 has been the best thing that’s ever happened to me.  It was worth the pain, the negative comments, all of it.