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Fear is the Problem: The Cliché that Love is the Answer is ACTUALLY the Answer.



We live in a world paralyzed by fear.

Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being transparent, fear of loving, fear of not being loved, (and lately, fear of disease)-fear of so many things-

Yet they tell us to be fearless- whilst convincing us into believing that we are not doing enough, we are not giving enough, we are not toeing the line, we are not enough.

How can people be fearless if they are constantly being judged negatively for that very act?

They reward the maverick who wins the gold medal, yet punish them for going against the grain.

People want to control the golden goose.

In the fairytales, they killed the golden goose. People continue to do this over and over and over and over again.

You cannot control the wind, the weather, nor other people.

Unfortunately, some make it their life’s work to attempt to do so… as if controlling others will bring a semblance of calm and order to their very disordered innards.

I call bullshit on that mess.

Their Jedi mind tricks are just that… made to induce you into believing their realities. We can control our own minds/selves/fears by LOVING OURSELVES AND OTHERS… and by knowing who we are, even if they don’t.

LOVE is FEARLESS (and this includes self love). The cliché that love is the answer is actually the TRUTH.

Do you love yourself, others, your convictions, your belief systems enough to stand up for yourself or do you cower in the corner when the Big Dogs come to hump your leg?

Will you be the bully who gangs up on those you perceive as weaker, just for the pleasure of instilling fear and control or will you be the champion for the underdog, even if that underdog is yourself?

Is it of more value to you to be popular or to have integrity?

Popularity isn’t a big thing for me. People will love your or hate you just for breathing. You can’t fight that and I don’t even want to.

I value those who value integrity, kindness, and love.

I am often called naive and trusting- even if I have an inkling I may get bitten in the ass later… because giving love and walking that walk is more important to me than covering my own rear.

I don’t even fear disappointment by others because I know I gave my authentic self. My circle is ever growing, new souls pop in daily and I delight in the adventure.

My mama always said, don’t say anything you aren’t willing to back up (in her broken English).

People fear SO MUCH. I don’t see much point in it. Surviving rape, beatings, near-death brushes, Covid 19, pulmonary embolisms, and other things I’ve not yet talked about on this blog (oh, but I will) has pretty much left me in a place where fear has less control over me… for the most part.

None of us are immune to fear, but some of us have thicker skins from Life.

My own code of ethics is simple: love fearlessly, talk honestly (even if it may offend some), and stand up for those who can’t stand up for themselves.

Above all, harm none.

Karma is a bitch. You get back what you give, for good or ill, in multitudes.

Make sure you’re giving your best that you can.

Be the cliché.

Giving Love isn’t that hard and it comes back in so many unexpected and wonderful ways…

Now, just because I’ve written the above doesn’t mean that I am all sweetness and light. Love can also be tough.

If you’re the only sane minority in a mob of rabid insanity, sometimes you have to fight your way out or die trying.

The good thing is, loves, at least you died trying.

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Bungalow Master Bedroom Redo

So far- still not done decorating

When we went into quarantine for covid in March, we moved ‘temporarily’ into my work bungalow and out of the big house. We converted it from a sparsely decorated work space into a home where we could safely be away from family members and not spread illness.

Since then, I’ve grown too fond of this little house and we’ve been living here full time. The rest of the (adult) family are blocks away at our main residence and we’re enjoying the quiet.

Links to items we used (thus far) in the redo can be found on my Amazon affiliate page: https://www.amazon.com/shop/missmaisiebabyfashionista?listId=3QXLSL8YMMTRA&ref=idea_share_inf but we purchased these on our own.

There were quite a few problems having to deal with this room to begin with:

1. Room is only 9’x14’, with the door next to the only wide wall available to fit the king sized bed.

2. Closet door and window on other available walls.

3. The remaining wall has no room for side tables.

The original wall color was a pale gray (as is most of the house). I wanted a warm white neutral wall. We went with Benjamin Moore’s White Dove OC-17.

We still have to finish the decorating/art/getting more furniture in, but I think it is a tremendous start!

The Novogratz bed is incredibly comfortable. I am pleased with the results thus far.

We will be changing out the overhead lighting to something more modern and adding a dimmer switch to the room as well.

Getting wall color up

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My First Vlog: HUGE THANK YOU to those who supported me these last few days…

I’ve never done this before, so… thank you all. Really.

I just figured out that I could record video on my new macbook pro.

Thank you for reading my blog and the problems with my family re depression, lupus, bipolar, and dementia

What happened: http://bit.ly/1IS8ZG7

About Lupus: http://bit.ly/1g41yVx

On Why I Overshare: http://bit.ly/1LdBgIW