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Today is my THIRD WEEK blogging- Plus MAJOR renovations happening at my house!

I just realized it… and my posts have been rather prolific. I can’t believe it’s only been 21 days since I started this blog!

I’ve been having a difficult time keeping up with it because I have SO much to do right now.

We have been really busy these last couple of days in my house- pie baking, adjusting to life without a baby minder, renovating a bedroom to turn into a studio, getting Maisie used to changes and new sleeping arrangements- I moved her (and myself) back into the master bedroom. I haven’t slept in it for almost 2 yrs. I had to be on bedrest, then after the c-section didn’t feel like hauling the baby up and down the stairs. She has her own room up here, but has never slept in it. She loves sleeping with me in my room, though.

I am so fortunate that this big hulk of an old house has about 7 ‘bedrooms’- though not all are used as such.

I rented this 20 yd dumpster today

I rented this 20 yd dumpster today

Maisie and R inspecting the dumpster

Maisie and R inspecting the dumpster

I rented a 20 yard (that’s meters for you non-Imperial folks) dumpster today and am cleaning out the basement and 3 rooms.

One of the rooms off the master bedroom is going to become a clothing room (because I can’t fit everything just into a closet and this 100 yr old house lacks adequate closet space to begin with). My basement suffered some flooding, so we need to throw out a ton of damaged stored items and books. I’m so sad that many of my favorite books were damaged. It’s painful to throw them out and see them in the state they are in now.

My oldest son, who hasn’t lived at home for about 5 or 6 yrs, moved back from Chicago today. He has an internet show that he streams, so we are turning one of the rooms into his studio. When he moves out (whenever that is- he says 6 mos- a year, but we love having him, so any amount of time is good), we will convert it to a playroom/toy room for Maisie/ guest room.

I haven’t been able to help with the basement, because I have to watch the baby. I don’t want her down there until we clean it out and bleach all the damp crud away.

We gave away 2 nice full sized mattresses today and I have some old washer/dryers that I will give to scrapper friends to haul out. I also am going to be leaving old exercise machines by the side of the road for people to take for free.

My basement currently resembles something from the tv show “Hoarders”. That is NOT good. I want to remedy this.

In my office, which I rarely use anymore, I will be setting up an interim studio for him to broadcast from… the room that will eventually be his must be gutted and drywalled and painted first. Hopefully this will all get done within a month, if he helps out.

I lost my SHIT on R this afternoon. Went to check on the dumpster progress and saw that they’d thrown away a box of expensive linens, heirloom ornaments, blankets I bought in Scotland years ago, 2 Louis Vuitton purses, leather and fur gloves, and a BAG OF COINS. I screamed so loudly that my neighbors came outside to watch as I scrambled/climbed that dumpster with Maisie attached to me in her Korean baby carrier (on my back). Apparently, they didn’t check the boxes they were tossing. NOW they will be more careful. Or. ELSE..

he is going through this to make sure he didn't throw anything else away that he wasn't supposed to

he is going through this to make sure he didn’t throw anything else away that he wasn’t supposed to

I probably won’t be posting as much, but I will be reblogging things I find interesting.

Night all!

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Katie O’Reilly on the Downsides to Donating Your Eggs

thought this was a really interesting blog post. I know that a lot of women over 40 opt for donor eggs. My Maisie was all mine and resulted from the use of the supplement ubiquinol, but this is good to know…

I can commiserate with her problems after fertility treatments – I had a brief foray into that sphere with no success, but ended up with three years of serious female troubles, not unlike what O’Reilly describes.

I am not a fan of Clomid and the hormones that they pump into a woman during fertility treatment.  My first TIA (small stroke type event) also happened during this process.

Longreads

For a brief while in my late twenties, I toyed with selling my eggs. In the end, I was afraid of having the procedure, of what the fertility drugs might do to me—and the idea of having offspring out in the world whom I might never know. (I was afraid enough of having offspring I would know, which I ultimately avoided.)

At BuzzFeed, writer Katie O’Reilly writes about her experience going through with the procedure a few years ago. Now, she suffers from what appear to be side effects—the evidence is pretty persuasive, although unconfirmed—and has many regrets:

After wading through a slew of Craigslist ads seeking plasma donors, I finally hit upon a gig that sounded promising: “Extraordinary females” with “high SAT scores, athletic backgrounds, and emotional resiliency” were being sought to “make someone’s dream come true.” My pulse quickened as I read on to learn that for this “most…

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So, I posted in this over 40s Moms support group on Facebook and all HELL broke loose…

… when I posted a link to my previous blog post, about my kid’s nickname.

It was split about 70/30ish = people who understood my rant vs. people who did not.

The ones who did not were BRUTAL, and not in a ‘brutally honest’ fashion.  It was more “shut yer trap, you 1st World Problem Spouting Hose Beast”, then a polite “oh, I was simply stating my opinion- why WOULD you be offended?” when I called them (or others did) on their shit.

I had no idea that there were so many passionate nickname haters out there.  They should start a support group.

Instead, I started my own.  It’s called “Exhausted, Fun, Wine Drinking (Or Not) Mothers Over 40”  on Facebook.

Yeah, it’s a mouthful.    Here is the cover photo:

it's funny, coz it's true

it’s funny, coz it’s true

On my personal FB page, I added this preface to the description of this group:

“If your vagina is a clown car- or not- we’d really like you to join…”

I figured that would weed out the pickier people.

*devilish grin*

I can’t believe how UNsupportive people can be on these so-called “support groups”.  It’s like wading through a cesspool of murky unhappiness just to get to the tootsie pop center.

I mean, if I wanted to have a huge knock-down, drag ’em out fight, I’d go to a family reunion.

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Natural Pregnancy After 45: List of Supplements I Took Prior To Conceiving And During Pregnancy

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I am also not a representative of any of these companies listed- I am just sharing what worked for *me*.

Maisie at 9 months at the beach

Maisie- 9 months-at the beach

I am a supplement junkie.  I fully admit that I have a huge love for them.  I am not a huge fan of Big Pharma drugs at all.

I am of the belief that “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” for most things.

Prior to my (accidental) conception of this child (at age 45), I had been going through a month-long juice and salad cleanse.  I started on ubiquinol supplements about 3 months prior.  I was also taking regular vitamin D3 (for my lupus) and lugol’s iodine drops (2-3 drops in my water, 1x a day).

Supplements prior to conception:

Supplements taken AFTER conception/during pregnancy:

  • Lugol’s iodine 2-3 drops 1x/day in my water.  Great article on fetal intelligence and higher IQs in babies because of iodine supplementation HERE.  Another article about why iodine is so important during pregnancy HERE.
  • Maca (first 2 months of pregnancy, to prevent miscarriage) 2 tablespoons per day, usually blended in a green juice.  Article HERE.
  • Vitamin D3 10,000 ius 1x/day.  Cuts down on pregnancy complications and risks (like pre-eclampsia), article HERE.  More reasons why D3 is vital for brain development HERE.   High doses also lead to better muscle mass and less type 1 diabetes- article HERE.
  • Prenatal vitamins these are pretty standard.


In addition, I was also on high blood pressure medication (Labetalol), progesterone, and heparin for my high blood pressure, progesterone issues, and Factor V Leiden blood clotting disorder.

Even with my 65 lb. weight gain, I did NOT get gestational diabetes nor did I develop preeclampsia, something they worry about in older pregnancies.

That’s it!

My child was born at week 37 by scheduled c-section and weighed 7 pounds 7 ounces and was 20 inches long.  Her Apgar score was perfect.

Knock wood, she has been uttering words since 2 months and is very intelligent and strong.  At nearly 10 months, this child is already very advanced in speech and growth.  She’s my little social butterfly dancing fool.  🙂


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Pregnancy (and C-Section) After A Tummy Tuck… My Experience

13 yrs. ago, after having three sons via caesarian section, I decided to have a tummy tuck.  It was probably one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself, even if it did leave me with a belly button that resembled a feline’s anus.

(I asked my doctor about this odd deformity- apparently TT weird navels happen.  I don’t know if that is true or not- was just true for me.)

Post 1st Tummy Tuck- couldn't find a less clothed photo

Post 1st Tummy Tuck- couldn’t find a less clothed photo

The tummy tuck removed about 2.5 lbs of stretch marked skin- that horrible saggy ‘apron’ that plagues an unlucky majority of us mothers.  I could see my bits and pieces with ease for the first time in over a decade.  I was elated to have a flat tum once more, even though the surgery ALSO raised the pubis a bit higher.  The result was to either shave it entirely or have a bush that rivaled ZZ TOP’s beards, growing higher than I remembered before the procedure.

I opted for the former.

Having a cat’s ass for a belly button and going entirely hairless were small prices to pay for washboard abs.  Besides, glorious ‘hip to hip’ bushes went out of vogue in the 1970s.  I was good with this.

When I found out that I was expecting Maisie, I started to worry about what it would do to my stomach.  Would it rip all the stitching out that kept my linea alba closed (the muscles that run down the center of the abdomen and stretch during pregnancy)?  Would I get more stretch marks?  Would the baby have room to grow?  Did I have ENOUGH SKIN LEFT on my belly to accommodate this growing fetus?!  WOULD I BURST OPEN LIKE AN OVERRIPE PEACH?!!?!?  What would it look like after the baby was born?

I was getting kind of anxious about it all (after the fact… didn’t really think much of it prior).

I googled and searched and YouTube’d everything I could find on the subject.  There wasn’t a lot about it online.

I asked my doctors if they’d performed c-sections on people who had previous tummy tucks- the initial group of doctors HADN’T and I was sent to maternal fetal medicine 45 minutes away.  The doctors there assured me that they had experience with previous TTs and all things calmed down… kinda.

The women on YouTube all looked like their stomachs were much flatter than the usual pregnant woman’s.  Their tummy tucks were considerably newer than mine, though.  A few, by the end of their pregnancies, acquired new horizontal stretch marks that radiated from their belly buttons.  Weeks after birth, some needed to redo their tummies, some didn’t.

about 6 or 7 months pregnant with Maisie.

about 6 or 7 months pregnant with Maisie.

Here’s what happened to me:

1.  At FIRST, I seemed much smaller in early pregnancy, but later my stomach became huge.  Some said I wasn’t as big as other preggo ladies, but I made up for it by having my breasts and derriere grow to rival a Kardashian’s.

2.  There was a bit more pain and stretching type soreness.  Not much more.  Enough to notice.

3.  I did NOT get any new stretch marks, even though I gained over 65 lbs!

4.  The diastasis recti, muscles down the center of my abdomen, stayed sewn shut.  NOTHING STRETCHED, my TT held wonderfully.

5.  I asked the doctors to make sure to ‘shut the barn door when they left, just like they found me’ and repair the TT after the c-section.  I am not quite sure what they had to do, but it took them a whopping HOUR AND A HALF to get me sewn back up.  If you’ve had prior c-sections, you know it almost never takes that long.

6.  My tummy was VERY puffy for months after.  I worried that my tummy tuck had somehow been stretched out or something.  After more weight loss and a few weeks of waist training (all the rage now), it was back to almost post-first-tummy tuck flat.  I am continuing to waist train now and am loving the results.

About a month ago, 2 weeks into waist training... weird navel and all!

About a month ago, 2 weeks into waist training… weird navel and all!

7.  My baby was born at week 37:  Maisie weighed a respectable 7 lbs 7 ounces and was 20 inches long.  She obviously had plenty of growing room.

A squalling Maisie, fresh out of the oven...

A squalling Maisie, fresh out of the oven…

Would I try for another baby after this?  Probably not.

I feel like I lucked out all around.  Having a baby at 45 is and was the most wonderful and terrifying experience.

I hope this helps others who are searching for info on babies after tummy tucks.  I wish more people would share their experiences, too.